Premature ejaculation is a problem that affects millions of men all over the world. But it also affects their partners – their wives and girlfriends who suffer right along with them. The irony is that struggling with early ejaculation can actually drive a couple apart when it can actually help bring them together and make their relationship stronger than ever. By including your partner in your treatment plan you’ll be letting her into your life on a truly intimate level. It’s one thing to develop physical intimacy when things are going well but when a problem with sexual performance comes up, dealing with it together can bring your relationship to a whole new level.
We might like to think of ourselves as being liberal in terms of sex but the truth is for all our false bravado, we tend to get pretty shy when it comes to discussing sex like adults. This is especially true if the discussion is about a problem with sexual performance. As a result, plenty of men suffer in silence which only makes it worse. It can make them feel isolated and alone which leads to depression and problems with anger management. It also means that treatment gets delayed which is just counter-productive. The sooner you open up about your problems, the sooner you can solve them.
Getting Your Partner Involved
Obviously, you won’t have to tell your partner that you have a problem with premature ejaculation – she certainly knows about it. Talking about the problem can be awkward and difficult but it also leads to a long term solution that can actually benefit your relationship for the rest of your life.
Make no mistake, your partner has suffered because of this as well. Chances are she hasn’t been consistently satisfied and while you’ve struggled with the emotional side effects of the problem, so has she. You may have not spoken about the problem until now and it’s likely that tension has built because of it. Breaking the ice and finally addressing the problem will be intimidating at first but, once those floodgates open, you’ll be surprised at the near instant relief that simply talking about it can bring.
Long Term Solution and a Lifetime of Benefits
Bringing her into your confidence and making her a part of your treatment brings with it several benefits. First of all, it’s simply a second person to offer input, feedback and help with research and decision making. Maybe your partner is especially health conscious. There are things she may know about nutrition which you don’t and dietary changes can be a surprisingly effective treatment option for some cases of chronic premature ejaculation. Or she may have read something, seen something or heard something on a television show that you haven’t. There’s no doubt this problem will have been weighing heavily on her mind as well and she may have already done some research about the problem and possible solutions. By opening the lines of communication you’ll be giving her the green light on giving her own insights or suggestions.
This kind of open communication and intimate connection builds and strengthens the emotional bonds of a long term relationship. Sexual problems are some of the most difficult challenges to overcome and they cannot be solved by you alone. Just as sex is a part of your life together so, too, should your treatment. Coping with and then overcoming a problem like this together – as a team – strengthens your relationship and adds a whole new dimension to your relationship.
Premature ejaculation affects more than simply the man struggling with it. The effects it has on the woman in his life and on their relationship can be serious. But this challenge can, when handled in an open and healthy way, actually serve as a way to bring a couple closer together. The bonds you can nurture and strengthen by dealing with the problem as a team will help you to overcome your performance issues and improve your relationship as a whole.