Some men are naturally anxious. They worry about everything – from how hot their morning coffee should be to the best way to manage their DVR storage. For these men, concerns about sexual performance also run the gamut and include everything from concerns about size to how long they are able to perform. Even men who have a perfectly normal sized penis and whom can perform well in bed worry it’s simply not good ENOUGH. Size, of course, is fairly easy to quantify. Knowing the average penis length is around 5.5 inches when erect gives men something to truly measure themselves against. Then, of course, there is the natural preferences of their sex partner. Some women prefer a larger penis while others like something a bit more modest. But the one thing all women agree on is the importance of how well a man performs.

Concerns about premature ejaculation are common because, in part, the condition itself is so common. But it isn’t as well understood since it is rarely discussed in any constructive way. One of the most common questions has to do with whether or not a man actually has the problem. After all, how soon is too soon? A few minutes? A few seconds? At what point is it premature ejaculation versus just poor technique?

Technically, premature ejaculation is defined as any time a man achieves orgasm before he would like. But that’s pretty vague. Many clinicians narrow the field by putting a specific time limit on it. Usually experts agree that if a man can’t last even one minute during penetrative sex, it’s probably a problem worth looking at more closely. The sexual partners of these men also have a voice in this. The fact is, many women can deal with a penis that isn’t as big as they may like, but a man who can’t perform is a whole other issue. After all, even a man with a perfectly sized penis isn’t worth bragging about if he simply can’t perform.

So what’s more likely to annoy a potential sex partner? Definitely a man’s staying power and overall technique. Issues with size can be tackled and even worked around but there’s simply no hiding poor performance. A man who wants to be seen as a good lover should always be able to satisfy his partner, even when his own performance is off. That means putting her satisfaction and needs ahead of your own.

So how can men improve their performance even if they don’t qualify as having premature ejaculation? Easy – by taking the lessons men who do deal with the condition can offer. Men who have to cope with premature ejaculation on a chronic basis often take a more proactive role in their sexual and overall health. This includes healthy moves like improving their diet, increasing their physical activity, learning new sex positions and improving their techniques in other areas. By expanding their sexual “bag of tricks” so to speak, they manage to take a challenge like premature ejaculation and turn it into a catalyst for positive change.

Penis size preferences can vary from one woman to another. While it is important to have a penis that is at least close to the average in terms of size, knowing how to use it is even more important. Nothing can take the place of good technique and solid stamina. Luckily, improving both technique and stamina is something every man can achieve thanks to the products and approaches developed to improve sexual health. So a man doesn’t always have to worry about his size or performance – both issues can easily be addressed and give men the sexual self-confidence they need to have a truly fulfilling sex life.